Video 5 –
The Hand Metaphor
and Other Frames

Enriching the experience...

This segment offers frames for understanding the process.

  • The hand metaphor for the small ‘I’s
  • the natural state of awareness available to babies
  • how & why we formed ‘I’s
  • why the small ‘I’s restrict our capacity
  • how releasing the ‘I’ is natural with this process



  • Anand Rao

    February 26, 2014

    I had a bit of trouble with this, and noticed the ‘I’ that really wanted the first one to relax and ‘I’ got frustrated it wasn’t happening! I thought of doing the same process with a cushion (i.e. how my awareness and muscles and body-mind change when I attend to a cushion, and what happens when I let it go back into the field of awareness with everything else in the room – i.e. what do I have to do with my body0mind attention to attend to an specific thing. Once I’d done a few different items, so I could recognise to pathway to letting it go back to take it’s place with everything else, I found it easier to do with an ‘I’ as I guess my system had ‘got the pattern’ of what it feels like to do it, and not have it be a big deal. A

    • Connirae

      February 28, 2014

      Thanks for sharing this, Anand. It sounds like this worked well for you, and others might find it useful too.

  • Jennifer deGandt

    March 4, 2014

    It was such a relief to be aware of the fist! yes at this moment I am contracted, defensive, afraid of something etc then to just let the awareness of the contraction invoke the letting go. The fist wants to let go now so it does. Definitely a happening not a directed doing.

  • Oliver Nielsen

    August 27, 2015

    Can each “I” also be seen as different “parts” as per Core Transformation terminology? Or are they different entities?

    • Connirae

      August 27, 2015

      Hi Oliver, When I’m doing the Wholeness work, I usually don’t bring in the idea of “parts” because it isn’t needed. Speaking of it as the ‘i’ is a more precise way of thinking about it and talking about it. We could say this is a “part” and we wouldn’t be wrong, it’s just that it doesn’t add anything when doing the Wholeness work.

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