Video 22 –
Sleep: “Free Form”

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Q:It was difficult to find the ‘I’ because I was already sleepy.

Response: If you find yourself frustrated or just having difficulty, then ask “Where is the ‘I’ who is trying hard?” “Where is the ‘I’ who is putting in effort?” “Where is the one who is frustrated?” This ‘I’ is often easier to find, because it is actually the “outer layer” in the moment.

When you’re drifting off to sleep, it would be awkward to try to follow any notes or steps. So how can you do the process in such a way that it fits with sleep rather than keeps you awake following steps? It may work best to use it in more “free form” way.

Check especially 4:10 where Connirae walks you through how she uses it if she awakens in the middle of the night.

If you’re already experiencing as the field of awareness, you don’t need to search for an ‘I’ to dissolve. You notice what emerges, and invite that to integrate.

After you’ve dissolved the outer layer, you are in a state of awareness. You don't need to be thinking about whether there were other layers earlier - you just notice if something remains now. The other layers may have dissolved. If it’s there in your experience, you work with it. If there’s nothing there, there’s nothing to work with.



  • Samantha Kifer

    July 21, 2014

    I had been trying to use this for sleep a few nights and I am glad that I referred back to this video. When I did it before, it felt MORE difficult, because I was trying to keep track of everything in my head and trying to make sure I was getting the sensation quality of the “I”, etc. I was having more difficulty really honing in on an “I” although I was usually always able to find the location of it. This created more agitation that kept me awake because I felt like I wasn’t doing it right, or it wasn’t working the way it was “supposed to”. Then I watched this video again, and let go of the need to follow a rigid process and just gently sense into how I knew an “I” was present, even if I didn’t hone in on the qualities of it, etc. and then invited them to open and relax and this immediately felt better and worked better! Thank you!
    This also provided an opportunity to work specifically on a persona of mine that needs things to be a certain way, or is rigid and inflexible. I did this during normal waking hours when I could be more focused on the process and this felt good.

  • Prescott

    August 18, 2014

    I want to report that I (for the first time in my adult life, as far as I remember) experienced (more than) a moment of “I have NO issues” — to dissolve/resolve/ invite to join awareness while using the Wholeness Process in the sauna the other day… I find I can easily access that perspective when I choose to… total clearness & clarity.

    Can I live there? Dunno.. maybe.. gonna see if there are advantages to that, as well as to simply accessing it by choice when appropriate.

    A marvelous moment of “what… there’s nothing to work on?… WOW!!!….. COOLLL!!”

    Before Wholeness, chop wood & carry water
    After Wholeness, chop wood and carry water

    This Process is a very, very subtle, gentle process– the cumulative effect over use & time is what differentiates it from other process tools I’ve used.

    Thanks for sharing this, Connirae

The Wholeness Process / Unit F / Video 22 – Sleep: 'Free Form'