Video 23 –
Is this the only thing
you do now?
In this segment...
Connirae shares which methods she finds most useful with clients.
- Recommendations in deciding when to use this with clients.
- Begin by using with yourself.
Additional Thoughts… (not in the video)
This method integrates everything. Protective layers (and by this I mean our coping mechanisms) gradually dissolve and melt away. As this happens we need to also notice and integrate the so-called negative states that these layers were protecting us from.
We then understand experientially that we didn’t need protection. We thought we needed protection because we didn't recognize that the original feeling we thought we needed to avoid wasn’t actually a problem. Once we get that, we don’t need to avoid anything. Then we are free.
Q: Can you integrate even intense negative emotions with this method?
A: There is great value in directly integrating intense so-called “negative” emotions in the direct way of this method. However, before working with intense negative emotions, it is important for you to first first gain experience with the method.
Begin by using it with things that are less intense — even neutral. This way you will understand how the sequence flows, and you will be able to go through the process more easily and smoothly when working with something stronger. Even then, if you are working with something really strong (such as response to abuse), we advise going through the process with a coach or guide who is trained in this method.
Note about emotions: Just reliving the negative emotion in the same old way is not helpful. Doing this just strengthens an unpleasant emotional habit.
What is necessary for change/transformation of the emotion, is experiencing it as Awareness (without a contracted 'i'), and experiencing it as sensation (rather than in terms of the meanings and interpretations we often have for our emotions.)
The Wholeness Process guides you in doing these things. This is what allows our old emotional reaction patterns to melt and dissolve. They no longer have any power over us. This is ultimately what we want to have happen.
When someone is experienced with the method, doing this (experiencing the sensation of the emotion as Awareness), can feel in one sense really good, even as it is happening. The experiencing of the sensation of the negative emotion if felt to be "just aliveness" rather than having a "good" or "bad" label on it.