Video 32 –
Content vs. Sensation
Quality, Personas, etc.

In this segment...

The distinction between sensation quality and content — how and why it matters.

When we have questions, it can be an interesting experiment to “find the one asking” and invite this one to integrate.

Commentary from Connirae:

The questions we ask can be interesting and useful at the content level. It’s also useful to integrate “the one asking” and find out what happens.

Often our questions come out of our “programs” for dealing with the world. Even with the most useful of these programs, there is benefit from allowing them to dissolve back into “the whole.” When we invite this, sometimes we become aware that what we’re inviting to dissolve may be a part of a structure we have created for an important purpose, such as safety.

When an ‘I’ doesn't want to dissolve, it's never a good idea to pressure or push it to do so. This just means something else needs to dissolve first. We need to check for the “outer layer” — usually a reaction or a chain of ‘I’s.

In the end, we discover that the contractions we make (the 'i's that we form), which are intended for some useful purpose such as making us safe, are actually what keep us from a deeper and more fundamental kind of safety.

This interaction is an example of how we can use the way we are in life to discover personas and work with them. When we feel an urgency about having something answered is just one example. Need to know, need to do, etc. are all useful to work with. Every one of us has these, in our own unique ways. Noticing and working with them using this process has great positive benefit. This is one of the ways that I use the Wholeness Process to continually evolve. I notice these needs to know, needs to do, etc. as they arise in my experience, and directly integrate the "me" who needs to know or do.

In this conversation, we first find the “me” who needs to know the distinction. Then she says there are objections to just integrating it. This is useful information. The important message here is — no force. If/when the dissolving is the right step, it will be welcomed. Until then, it isn’t actually the right “next step” for us.

Also discussed...

  • Personas and “Doers.” How to find them and work with them.
  • Can I use metaphors with this? I recommended using primarily natural world metaphors.

Additional Material...

One reason I recommended using natural world metaphors is these are the kinds of metaphors that usually arise spontaneously in people's experience when they do the process.

Sometimes I offer clients metaphoric images of what they are likely to experience when the 'I' dissolves: it might be like fog dissipating in sunlight, or like a crystalline structure dissolving in water. Like ice or butter melting. Clients have also described it as like an explosion (in a good way), like sunlight streaming in all directions, like water flowing, lava flowing, or like a drop of dye permeating through water.

The timing and manner of offering these images does matter. The images are offered as possibilities for the unconscious to ponder and use as fits naturally. They give a range of experience the the unconscious may or may not resonate with.



  • Samantha Kifer

    July 18, 2014

    I really appreciate the specific examples on how to work with personas. I am especially interested in applying this process for personas so I may experiment with different ways of applying it. It seems you could try it multiple ways:
    1) Notice the one who is impatient (as an example), then feel into the sensation quality of that and integrate it. If it does not want to integrate, there may be more layers to work with.
    2) Notice the one who is impatient, then feel into the sensation quality of that. Then find the “I” who perceives that sensation. Then integrate that “I”, and then the persona.
    3) Or, treat it like an authority: Notice the one who is impatient, then feel into the sensation quality of that. Notice if this one is orienting towards something else, or needs permission from something else to relax and integrate. Then follow the authority chain and integrate it as an authority.

    Some questions/wonderings I have:
    1) Any thoughts or ideas on how a “persona” differs from an “I”? For me, personas often feel more substantial, and larger, and often the the form/shape of a being rather than a smaller point in space like the “I”‘s.
    2) Would it make sense to find the perceiver/”I” of the persona?
    3) When I tried this on “the impatient one”, I was in the midst of an experience that was eliciting this persona. This made the sensations really strong (stronger than if I had tried to recall it later). I paused what I was doing and closed my eyes so I could focus on applying the wholeness process. I tried it the first way (#1 above), and found that while I was able to integrate it into awareness pretty easily and feel that wonderful relaxing feeling, it immediately went away as I attended back to the experience I was having and the impatience came back. Then I applied the process again using #2 above (finding a chain of “I’s”, etc.). They were all able to integrate successfully and resulted in the good feeling/peaceful place of Awareness. Then when I attended back to the issue I was having in the moment, the impatience came back again.
    So I’m wondering now, perhaps there is some authority over this “impatient one” that I am missing, and it keeps reforming itself. I will try it the #3 way next time to see if that makes a difference.
    OR, perhaps, as you said, you just keep applying the process and the reaction gets less and less over time. Which is a unique challenge for someone with an impatient persona 😉

    • Connirae

      July 23, 2014

      Yes, you’ve put the main options succinctly, Samantha.
      When people first begin using the process, I don’t usually bring in the authority piece. This is because it usually works better to experience the integrations in a simpler way first. Then our consciousness has a certain repertoire of understanding. But with the experience of impatience, the way you are describing it, it’s usually useful to add in the piece of finding the authority “energy” and integrate that. Something like impatience of course is always in relationship to an idea of how things should be or needs to be, and this generally indicates an authority.

      About the difference between a persona and an ‘i’. I don’t have an absolute definition – but I just find the different ways of thinking about it useful in helping people notice what is there that is separate. The “personas” are generally more of a body, as you were speaking. Often they are “doers” – so it makes sense that there is more of a representation of a body that is involved here. If we were to think in terms of sensory channel, the ‘i’s tend to be more visual and/or auditory. The personas tend to have kinesthetic muscle sense as part of the experience. I say this cautiously because it’s most useful to just notice what is there, and be ready to have it not fit my definitions or categories, or anyone else’s either.

The Wholeness Process / Unit G / Video 32 – Content vs. Sensation Quality, Personas, etc.