Video 39 –
Integrating What’s
Missing: The Steps

The Steps to the
"What's Missing" Exercise.

Connirae walks the group through the steps for the exercise, "Integrating What's Missing".

Comments?

6 Comments

  • Sue Ballance

    May 10, 2014

    HI Connirae
    I knew immediately what to work with ..tho got it as content.
    easily went to sensation etc.
    Then focus seemed inward and downward very dark very stuck. so then the other questions didn’t apply and I couldn’t find ‘other’ control bodies to release.
    so ended up just very very aware of whats missing.
    What ‘s the way through this??
    Look forward to hearing from you thanks

    • Connirae

      May 10, 2014

      Hi Sue, If you are beginning with the sense of “something missing”, then here is what will usually fit in the situation you describe. This “aspect” if we can call it that, is focusing inward and downward, and very stuck. This is most likely because it has given up on getting what it wants (what it feels is missing). It may believe it’s not possible to ever get what it wants. So we acknowledge this, that this is what this aspect believes. And then we ask the question, “so even though you may think it’s not possible to ever get it, where is this located in your experience? If it were possible, where would it be?” Then you can continue with the same method. It may be located far away, but if you are starting with an experience of something missing, there will always be a location for what’s missing. Hope this helps.

  • Sue Ballance

    May 11, 2014

    Thank you, Connirae, yes that was helpful…. and interesting !… when I first read it it was quite clear and I immediately tried it out and came to a good place. however through the day its come up again several times so I have just applied the same to it whenever it does.

    However ! just now I re read your advice and this time I have understood it quite differently … so have just ‘tried it out’ this other way . It was quick yet I feel there is still more there to address.
    Is it that sometimes there are issues that one just needs to approach from many different avenues in order to ‘clear’ all the different inputs that have created it ?
    I guess I just feel that if I didn’t clear it completely either there is more to address from other angles or I didn’t get enough clarity in the way I first dealt with it , is this how you understand it??

    I find it really an interesting concept that if there is a concept of something missing there is always a location for what is missing … and that in itself helps the sense to perceive the possibility.
    Thank You

  • Samantha Kifer

    July 19, 2014

    So interesting! I wonder too, what are all the different ways and possibilities to explore something that may require further integration. I wonder if it needs something else to integrate first. I wonder if you could just directly ask the sensation when it returns if it wants or needs anything from anything in that moment. I wonder if you kept track of the different chains of wants if they would be different each time you do the process, and if those different specific locations represented the different avenues through which this issue was born out of. And then it would just be a matter of keeping track, and continuing to work through it until there is nothing left.

    OR, I wonder if you could pay attention to the specifics of the situation(s) in which what feels like the same feeling arises? And perhaps there is something specific about the circumstances under which the feeling was triggered again that warrants different aspects to need integration. Then, once you have worked through the process in all the myriad of different situations that it could get triggered, it is finally complete.

    Fun! What a fun process of discovery and play and learning.

  • Samantha Kifer

    July 19, 2014

    It’s interesting too because this is almost like the Core Transformations but instead of asking *what* it is that something wants, we ask *where* it is seeking it from.

    • Connirae

      July 23, 2014

      Yes, this is the closest piece to the Core Transformation. For a lot of people it works best to start with Core Transformation for this kind of thing. Then the Wholeness work goes about integration in a different way and I think “catches” what remains.

The Wholeness Process / Unit I / Video 39 – Integrating What's Missing: The Steps